If you’ve never spent a considerable amount of time away from home before homesickness can hit you badly. I went to university 300 miles away from home, and it wasn’t an option for me to go home whenever I felt like it (well, it would have cost me around £200). But I don’t regret moving so far away from home, and actually I still believe that going to uni that far away from home was the making of me.
Homesickness isn’t fun, it can be horrible. I remember when it hit me the first time in my first year at uni. It wasn’t within the first few weeks of being in Newcastle, in fact it only really hit me about 2 weeks before I was due to go home for Christmas. Suddenly I was overwhelmed with lots of deadlines, having not been home for 2 months, the anxiety of getting myself home, worrying about my first university exams, as well as trying to think about finding somewhere (and someone) to live in second year.
So the point of this post? Not to share all of my homesickness stories, but to give you some tips about how to deal with homesickness 🙂
1. Make your room homely
Don’t worry what people say, but if you can bring things from home then do. Your favourite duvet cover, favourite cushion, photos from home, favourite pyjamas, even your teddy! Bringing things from home will help your room feel more familiar and more like yours.
2. Distract yourself
Call/FaceTime your friends/family. Arrange a pizza/film night with your flatmates, get on with some work, go shopping. Do anything but sit around thinking about it. I know it’s easier said than done but sitting around by yourself and doing nothing is the worst thing to do.
3. Tell someone
Tell your friends/family home you’re feeling. You can almost guarantee someone else is feeling the same. Even if you’re not the most social of people, having a few friends/coursemates at uni will help.
4. Try not to go home
If you live down the road from home try not to go home unless you really have to. Knowing how to get yourself through these hard times without the option of going home will really help you in the long run.
5. It will get better
Remind yourself it will get better. I promise it will get better and you’ll wonder what on earth you were so upset about. During my MSc there was one day I properly broke down on the phone to my mum. My room was so hot, I wasn’t sleeping, I was tired, I was annoyed at the guy in the room next door to me… It was all so much. But later that evening when I’d gathered myself I couldn’t help but laugh at myself wondering what I’d got so upset about. It will get better.
I hope that some people may find this post helpful 🙂 Let me know if it helps you or if you’ve gone through homesickness yourself.
How do you go about combatting homesickness?